Over breakfast the other day my mother and I were talking about babies and dogs (she had two babies and I have none). It seems that people want to believe that having babies is an unselfish act yet so many of these same people can’t understand why you or I would prefer having dogs. Perhaps because loving dogs is the real unselfish act.
When someone has a child so much of loving the child has nothing to do with the child him or herself. Heck, they don’t even know that little person. Sure, the kid was riding around with mom for 9 or so months but I doubt there was a lot of communication other than warm fuzzy feelings brought on by hormones. Nothing against kids but over the years of interviewing parents about their kids the one really big fact that keeps coming out is that having kids is for the parent, not the kid. Babies are the original Mini Mes. So when parents say they love their babies, what they are saying is I love me and that little part of me I’m holding in this blue or pink blanket. That’s fine and we won’t get into adoptive parents who love the idea of being parents (not a bad idea, not just a particularly unselfish one).
So back to dogs. When someone loves a dog they have the chance to experience really unselfish love, love that carries the spirit higher and transforms it into something better.
Loving a dog:
Allows one to love unselfishly. For most people there is no objective in loving a dog. The dog can’t get you a better home (yours might look worse for wear or you might even have trouble finding new digs with a dog); he can’t be your sexual partner (don’t go there); he can’t get you a better job or a better social class. In fact, all he can do is love you in whatever his own fashion.
Allows one to love openly without fear of rejection or abuse of trust. The dog will not stay out all night and come in, only to tell you he’s found someone else to share his bed. The dog will not reject you because you gain or lose pounds, hair, teeth, uterus or some other body part. When the dog loves, he loves without concern for anything other than you are the object of that love. A Weimaraner may show love differently than a Beagle or a Border Collie or even a Newfoundland, but they all love without reserve.
Allows one to love honestly. There are no games with dogs when it comes to love. They do not know how to play those games so you cannot play them either. No coy, “how much do you love me’s” with dogs. They love and you love. Period.
Allows one to live honestly. Having this much honest love in one’s life gives one the chance to live honestly as well. Having to eat hamburger rather than steak for dinner or living in a small house rather than a mansion? Dogs don’t care and they won’t love you any differently. Dogs inspire internal honesty (if we let them) because they are so honestly themselves and accept the world honestly. We can live a more honest life knowing someone loves us in that honesty.
Allows one to transcend our meager human spirits. Loving another creature without the expectation of getting something back other than that purest of loves allows us to grow past out human pettiness and selfish and self-absorbed lives. We can learn how to be more than human. We can embrace the greater spirit which embraces all life. We can learn to love like dogs love.